Sometimes when you put yourself out there to meet someone new, things aren't exactly what they seem....
So I met this guy online. He seemd very chill and very kind, in fact his username all but stated those facts. After exchanging a few emails we agree to meet.
We had a little misunderstanding when first trying to meet up. I'm not really sure you can pinpoint whose fault it was, and I'm willing to say it was probably pretty 50/50. We showed up at different times. So it sort of seemed like we'd stood each other up. But we made it over that hurdle and met for lunch a few days later. Lunch was nice, we chatted, we figured out that we know some of the same people through our work in the same field. And later that afternoon he asked me to meet for drinks a few days later.
Our drink date went off with any hitches. The bar was a little louder than we would have liked but we seemed to have plenty to talk about and I left feeling like things had gone well. In fact he gave me a hug as we parted.
The next week we were both really busy and not around so we agreed that we'd get together once that all quieted down. The following Tuesday we chatted, he asked how my event went, told me briefly about his time away, etc.. At the end of the conversation he asked me what I was doing the following night, and we made plans for Wednesday.
The plan: 7pm Diva Lounge in our neighborhood (yes he lives in my neighborhood).
6:55 I arrive.
7:05 he's still not there.
7:20 comes around and he's still not there.
So I try calling him. Knowing he works in Boston I figure he could have been caught up at work and then caught on a slow train... his phone goes straight to voicemail, I leave a messaging "Hi, just wanted to make sure we're still meeting tonight. I guess something must have happened to keep you. Give me a call when you get this".
7:30 I head home figuring that by the time I get home I'll get a call from him with an explaination and perhaps still time to meet for a little bit....
Well that was in June, and it's now September and I still haven't heard from him.
Shortly after he stood me up he looked at my online profile again (the website tells you who looks at you), he's also been on his email (he shows up in my gchat window)... but still nothing. So this tells me that he's not dead or unable to communicate.
I'm not sure it would have worked out anyways, but really? Who stands people up? I truly thought this only happened on TV or in the movies. I mean there are so many ways to communicate with people without having to turn them down face-to-face. He could have sent a text, left a voicemail when he knew I'd be at work, or sent me an email to tell me he wasn't going to be there or wasn't interested.