I was reading a talk thread online about dating and "the art of dating" and here's something that I realized in reading and responding to the conversation:
Dating reminds me of what it was like when I was in college and I went to visit a friend at their school. The rules to drinking games were always different depending on who you played with....
The same is true in dating, the rules change depending on who you are playing with. Some rules are easy to adapt to and others just seem ludicrous.
For example, who pays when you're out on a date? The person who did the asking? The man? Do you split the bill? For me, I always offer to pay half. Some guys let me and some don't. Either way, I'm ok with it. I wouldn't offer if I thought I shouldn't be paying. Apparently some girls use this as a trap- if the guy lets her pay then he isn't suitable to date. Seriously? So some guys feel that paying is the proper thing to do, and some guys are afraid that not paying will kill their chances with a girl.
I realize rules have to exist, but why is it that everybody has their own set and nobody will tell anybody else what their personal rules are? Maybe that's the key. Sharing our rules with each other so we're all on a level playing ground.